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A |     妈宝男真是给男娃当妈的一大难题。                   特别是小时候，又得呵护，又得注意不能养成什么都找妈的习惯。

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    A local train driver receivs a notebook from his Chinese predecessor at the Adama station in Adama City, Ethiopia, Sept. 9, 2023. (Xinhua/Wang Guansen)The global perception landscape is changing. For decades, the United States occupied a dominant position in international public opinion. The latest Pew Research Center survey, however, points to a notable turning point: for the first time in more than two decades, China is viewed more favorably than the United States across a larger number of countries.
What explains China's growing appeal?
For many developing countries, China offers a practical development partnership centered on infrastructure, investment, industrialization, technology transfer and trade. Rather than prescribing a single pathway to modernization, it has generally emphasized allowing countries to pursue development in line with their national priorities.
One reason China's influence has grown is that its development model is highly visible. From Ethiopia's railways to Pakistan's power plants, Chinese-financed projects address everyday development challenges by improving transport, energy security and connectivity. Through the Belt and Road Initiative, China has mobilized nearly 1 trillion U.S. dollars in infrastructure investment, producing projects that citizens can see, use and associate with economic progress.
The distinction lies not only in the scale of investment but also in the evolving priorities of development cooperation. While many Western partners have increasingly emphasized economic security, strategic de-risking, private-sector mobilization and governance reform, China has combined large-scale investment in physical infrastructure with technology transfer, industrial cooperation and human capital development.
At the same time, China has actively promoted trade by expanding market access, including granting zero-tariff treatment to many least-developed countries, deepening currency-swap arrangements, and encouraging the use of local currencies in cross-border trade. Together, these measures seek to strengthen economic connectivity, reduce transaction costs and exchange-rate risks, and create new opportunities for developing countries to integrate into regional and global value chains.
    A container truck, transporting the first batch of imports under China's expanded zero-tariff treatment to 53 African nations, enters Shenzhenwan Port in Shenzhen, south China's Guangdong Province, May 1, 2026. (Xinhua/Mao Siqian)
This integrated approach has produced tangible improvements in productivity, connectivity and local capacity, reinforcing perceptions of China as a long-term development partner.
Equally important is the philosophy underpinning China's engagement. Beijing consistently emphasizes sovereignty, mutual respect and non-interference, maintaining that every country should determine its own political and development path. For many governments across the Global South, this approach is a partnership based on equality rather than political conditionality, allowing them greater policy space to pursue domestic development priorities.
Diplomatic style has also influenced perceptions. Through mechanisms such as the Forum on China-Africa Cooperation and regular engagement with Pacific Island countries, China has committed itself to equality and shared development. For many governments in the Global South, that sense of respect and recognition is not merely symbolic -- it contributes to long-term political trust.
Perhaps the most important nuance is this: the Global South is not becoming anti-American; it is becoming strategically pragmatic. Its foreign policy decisions are increasingly guided by national interests, economic opportunity, and development priorities rather than Cold War-style geopolitical alignment.
The Global South's primary ambition is neither ideological nor geopolitical -- it is developmental. Governments want to create jobs, eliminate poverty, modernize infrastructure, strengthen industrial capacity and improve the quality of life for their citizens. China's transformation over the past four decades, from lifting hundreds of millions of people out of poverty to becoming a global leader in infrastructure, manufacturing and technology, has demonstrated what sustained long-term planning can achieve. Consequently, many developing countries are looking to China not as a model to replicate wholesale, but as a development partner from which they can learn, cooperate and pursue shared prosperity while preserving their own policy autonomy.
This contrast is also reflected in broader policy priorities. At a time when many Western governments are increasingly emphasizing tariffs, export controls, technology restrictions, sanctions and economic security, China has continued to promote infrastructure investment, trade, industrial cooperation, technology partnerships, open-source AI initiatives and greater access to its domestic market. Whether one agrees with either approach or not, many developing countries evaluate partnerships primarily through the lens of economic development and tangible outcomes. That difference in emphasis is helping reshape global perceptions.
    A staff member arranges exhibits at the booth of Nigeria during the 9th China-Eurasia Expo in Urumqi, capital of northwest China's Xinjiang Uygur Autonomous Region, June 25, 2026. (Xinhua/Wang Fei)
The world is changing, and the transition toward a more multipolar international order is becoming increasingly evident. The Global South is no longer a passive participant in world affairs. Its countries are exercising greater strategic autonomy, making decisions according to their own national interests, development priorities and the aspirations of their people. In China, developing countries have found a true friend and good partner.
Editor's note: Maya Majueran serves as the director of the Belt and Road Initiative Sri Lanka, an independent and pioneering organization with strong expertise in Belt and Road Initiative advice and support.
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C |                    图图是在伦敦出生的。我和我老公自己带。他一岁前，光是吃喝拉撒睡觉冷暖这些问题，我就感觉到国内外的方式完全不同。                   我个人感觉，国内对孩子的养护真是极致到了宇宙的尽头。                   特别是短视频里那些过分警告孩子会怎样怎样的傻叉论述，导致热爱看这些的祖父母，跟我们这一代父母，经常因为带娃的小事起争执。                   哭一会就会有情感阴影，坐久了伤脊椎，吃任何东西都会呛着，冬天裤子露脚踝了就会感冒，摸摸脸蛋就会脸颊发炎…...                    图图10个月的时候，我带他回家拍全家福，有一幕特别逗。

D | 进影棚之前，有好几家一起在等。                             我老公双手抓着娃小手玩，举高高了一下。一瞬间包括工作人员在内，一起惊呼“He!” 一边惊呼还集体向后退，像水花炸开了一样。

E |                    他们估计觉得，我娃的脊椎这么一下，就要断了。                   我老公是东欧人，家里说俄语为主，养育方式比较tough，特别是男娃。他们更在乎养成普京那样的男子，七十多岁泡冰水里养生那种。                   我老公三岁就开始被锻炼做很多家务。即使有阿姨，他的房间一定是自己打扫。

F | 很多体育运动，很多下田的农活，培育体格和性格。                   图图小时候，到了冬天也不会穿很多，我老公偶尔还给他洗洗冷水澡，上一上普京那种提高免疫力的东欧方法。                   一岁前的大冬天，我自己带他去上游泳课，两个人从泳池出来了也没啥人帮忙的，洗洗擦干盖上保暖的大衣就回家，没法太细致。                   我个人的体验是国内遇见的妈宝男真的很多，我真的好奇是不是跟近年的养育文化有关。

G |                    男娃被当成了特别稀奇的物种。可是温室养法，养不出能经历风雨的树。                   越稀奇越绝种啊，你看看大熊猫。                   可是，每个人一定会经历风雨，没有父母能帮助挡一辈子。                   当然，英国我也待得不长，我也没有严格的统计数据来比较。全球化之后的流动性也大——我纯属个人吐吐槽。

H |                    英国也一定有妈宝男。                   我有个之前的合作伙伴，还是我老乡，就base伦敦。看起来各种光鲜的金融男，可真的事事费妈。大事找妈，小事找老婆。

I |                    当这位妈宝男的妈妈代表他来找我吃饭，替他三十多岁的儿子谈合作和分账方式，以及规划人生的时候，我真的震惊了。                   立马停止合作。                   我感觉英式教育里养出妈宝男的概率小，只是个人这五年在英国上学工作，待人接物的感受。                   西方文化里，大多数老外会觉得经常找妈是一个很丢脸的事情，特别男娃。

J |                    图图干妈说，在伦敦路上，往往看见老外家庭是一带五。中国家庭反过来，五带一。                   最近给图图看学校，也有不少心得。从幼儿园开始，很多学校都会强调接触户外和大自然。

K | 从小学开始，很多学校就强调如何培育独立性（Independence）和独立思考，学习之外还有非常多的运动项目和俱乐部。                   从小就做题家的我，听到这些是很新鲜的。我接受的中式教育更重视知识的灌输，很少强调要走出去，很少强调玩的重要性。

L |                    剑桥的人类学教授麦克法兰研究英式教育和英国社会，有好几本著作。

M |                    他说，英式教育中团队运动比数学更重要，因为团体运动“teach you the centre art of life”。                   大家不会崇拜数学考得好的人，而是会跟着足球队队长去打拼。

N |                    因为在一个团队运动里当队长，需要很强的交往能力和平衡精神。

o | 比如足球，一个孩子需要学习去平衡，自己要踢多久的球，什么时候把自己脚上的球传给别人。                   这种能力正是解决各种人生难题的核心——麦克法兰说，这种教育设计体现了亚当斯密对于一个人平衡“self love”和“social love”的思考。                   这种教育设计其实根源于英国殖民时代，英国需要通过公学系统（boarding school)，培养能去全球范围殖民的外交和政治人才。                   这种传统英式教育的核心，在于让未来能力成为全球领导人的孩子，在离开家的情况的下去自己解决问题（solve problems away from home)。

p |                    英国这么小一个岛国，有全球这么多殖民地，是懂点全球化领导的艺术的。                   麦克法兰自己就是外交官的后代。我印象特别深，他说从小他在英国的学校就是自己和同学们玩各种游戏（all kinds of games)，室内游戏和室外团体运动。                   Netfilx的剧《王冠》第一季里，就有女王老公菲利普小时候在苏格兰的公学里上学的故事。环境那叫一个苦，成天在森林泥地里跑爬打滚— 他还是王室身份。                   他自己很感激这段经历，试图把儿子查尔斯送过去。查尔斯从小养尊处优惯了，几乎被父亲深爱的同一个学校击垮。

q | 结果就是转回更现代化（舒服）的学校。

r |                    话说回来，英国学校也是很在乎读书和学习的，特别是阅读写作还有数学能力在national curriculum里是核心。                   但绝不会只强调书本学习，或者针对考学的能力培养。

s |                    麦克法兰系统研究过英国工业革命的历史。

t | 很有意思的是，工作革命之前，日本的识字率比英国高，但工业革命这种历史级别的创新，并不发生在日本。                   他说，英式教育比较遵从人性和自然，对人的干预少。“一味的知识灌输，只会扼杀人性”。                   当然，这也只是我这个做题家妈妈的反思。不养出妈宝男的这条路，还很长。                   不仅是因为希望，我儿子童年可以真的快乐一些。                   关键如果长大了还妈宝，真是会一辈子费妈。                   共勉。                   本文来自微信公众号：糖总总，作者：糖总总。

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